This topic comes to mind with the loss of my precious Emily a few days ago and the imminent death of Tristan. I’ve had to say goodbye to 13 of my babies since 1995. All but two of these 13 were euthanized when I realized it was time. Making the decision to let them go is never easy. However, I thought I’d share my thoughts on the subject since I’ve had to do it so many times.
The first thing I remember is that such a decision is NOT about me or my dread of living without my cat. My cat’s welfare must be foremost in my mind. I love my kitties way too much to ask them to stay around suffering so I can keep them. I know I’d suffer much more later on with the guilt I’d have if I did this. I’ve always called letting my cat go “the ultimate act of love.” I really believe this.
So how do I know when it’s time? Being so emotionally attached makes it hard for all of us to be objective. In most cases our cats will let us know when they’re done. I look at quality of life first and foremost. Can my kitty still do the things he used to love to do? Is he just lying around listless? Is he hiding or has he withdrawn emotionally from me? Can he eat on his own? Go to the litter box? Basically, I ask myself, “Is my kitty enjoying his life?” Someone, who has had many cats, once said something that has really helped me in making this awful decision. “Let the cat go while he still has some dignity.”
I don’t believe, in most cases, that it is the most compassionate thing to let a cat linger and die on his own. The euthanization process has been very quick and easy for all my cats. I call it “a sweet death.”
So, if you are facing the end of life of one of your cats, maybe my experience will be of help to you. Even though I’ve been through it 13 times and facing another one, it never, ever gets easier. Still, in the end I choose to do what’s most humane and loving for the sweet being I’ve loved for years.
Laura Speirs, Feline Behavior Consultant